VALUES LESSON 4: Vision, Alignment, Life, You and Me, Experience

VALUES LESSON 4: Vision, Alignment, Life, You and Me, Experience

Vison-what is the vision of our lives together.

Alignment- are we both on the same page about what you want.

Life-what choices and decisions are you/we going to make to enhance your relationship

U and I- you and me= we. Us being in this relationship together and enjoying the partnership we create.

Experience- what do we want to explore together.

Let’s recap

Vision as a couple: where do you both want to go in life. Do you know your partner’s vision for themselves and the relationship?

Then there is Alignment. Do you communicate with each other? Do you feel connected to each on multiple levels (emotionally, mentally, physically and financially)?

Life- decision-making in a relationship: how are you and your partner making a decision together as a team. What decisions are you in agreement with and what decisions are you not in agreement with. How do you compromise with one another?

You (U) and your partner creating memories with one another, participating in activities or hobbies that you both enjoy.

Experience- what type of life and lifestyle do you both want? Have open dialogues about this in the beginning and revising it throughout the relationship, we change and grow in relationships.

Learning more about each other’s values can be a fun conversation. The way you vision and communicate your values at the beginning of the relationship may have changed as you grow you may have more clarity, more knowledge, and more experiences.

Always value your values. They are part of what you think you deserve and how you create the life you want for yourself and your partner.

VALUES LESSON 3: Which team are you on?

VALUES LESSON 3: Which team are you on?

TEAM KNOWING  YOUR PARTNER’S VALUES

Knowing Values =
  • Shared experiences
  • Understanding what’s important
  • Clear expectations Working as a team
  • Ability to make decisions
  • Not taking things personally
  • In alignment

TEAM NOT KNOWING YOUR PARTNER’S VALUES

Not knowing values=
  • Assumed experiences
  • Making decisions that might throw the relationship off course
  • Unclear expectations
  • Not knowing what’s important to your partner
VALUES LESSON 2: 10 hidden benefits of knowing your partner’s values

VALUES LESSON 2: 10 hidden benefits of knowing your partner’s values

10 HIDDEN BENEFITS ABOUT KNOWING YOUR PARTNER’S VALUES:10 HIDDEN BENEFITS ABOUT KNOWING YOUR PARTNER’S VALUES:
1. Realizing you have similar values
2. Being introduced to new values you want to incorporate into your life
3. Participating in activities that support your values
4. Building towards strengthening your values together
5. Making decisions based on of your values
6. Having respect for each others values
7. Communicating about experiences that embrace your values
8. Understanding what is important to each other and why
9. A glimpse into how your partner was raised and how they have adopted certain values
10. Being on the same page more often than not on the same page

There you have it Strength, Inc.’s  10 HIDDEN BENEFITS OF KNOWING YOUR PARTNER’S VALUES.  There are always opportunities to have a discussion about values when you are getting to know someone.  It will help in the long run to have this conversation in advance to avoid any confusion down the road.

Requina

VALUES LESSON 1: Let’s talk about the good stuff

VALUES LESSON 1: Let’s talk about the good stuff

Let’s talk about the good stuff- VALUES

Values in a relationship.

Is this a discussion you have early in the relationship, after you have chosen to already start dating or when you are getting married?

I would suggest that having a discussion about values can give you some useful information about a person.

This is useful information that can add to the decision if you want to proceed with a relationship with a person.

Why even consider talking about values and is it really important?

YES, YES and YES.

Core values create the foundation of a relationship.

Have you heard the statement such as make sure you see what type of relationship he has with his mother or make sure you see what type of relationship she has with her father? That stems from a message around values. Insinuating if the person has “good” family values or the ability to have a healthy relationship with a person of the opposite sex.

If family is one of your core values this may be an area that is noticed. Now, are there circumstances to every family dynamic? Yes. It wouldn’t be fair to not give someone a chance based on them not having a close/healthy relationship with their opposite-sex parent. It is something you will have to pay attention to during the dating phase of a relationship.

Another common value is finances.

What are your financial habits and what are your partner’s financial habits? This is where a conversation about the idea of what type of bank accounts you expect to have, your money language (my money, your money or our money).

Another values area could be family. Do you want children, does your partner want children? If, so how many children and when? This is another values area for couples to discuss in relationships during the dating phase. I have observed relationships where the man wants children and the woman isn’t ready or the women wants children and the man isn’t ready. This can create conflict amongst the couple because the values and expectations were not clearly communicated. This in turn affects the quality of the relationship.

Values are an area that could be considered a prerequisite to continuing or deciding to continue a relationship with a partner.