- Start the healing process
- Be consistent (weekly or bi-weekly)
- Stay focused
- Show up ready to do the work
- Have supportive people around you
- Know that it can be unfamiliar at times
- Develop new patterns and habits
- Implement new patterns and habits
Continue the journey. When you start to feel better that’s not a sign that your healing process is over. Healing is an ongoing journey.
From my experience, it is possible to heal when you are in a relationship.
What makes healing while you’re in a relationship possible
There are 3 questions you have to ask yourself:
- Am I ready to heal?
- Is my partner on board with my healing?
- Will I stay focused on my healing process?
Am I ready to heal?
Have you reached a point where you are ready to unload and release some of your layers? Do you want to understand your behaviors, your patterns, and relationships with yourself and others?
Healing opens your mental, emotional and physical body to experience you and your relationships from a different lens. You need to ask yourself, truly, am I ready?
Is my partner on board with my healing?
Can my partner understand I am working through my process? Is my partner available to support me through my healing?
When one partner starts to heal there are going to be some changes in the relationship. The partner who has decided to heal has to be aware of these changes and so does the partner. How can your partner get on board? They can act in a supportive role on your journey or they can engage in his/her own healing journey.
Will I stay focused on my healing process?
Am I going to prioritize my healing process? Am I going to be consistent and stay on the journey even when it’s uncomfortable and challenging?
When you begin your healing process there may be many distractions that come to your attention. It is at that time that you have to decide if you want to stay focused or be distracted.